Should I just pretend that nothing happened even though I%26#039;m scared and worried about her?
My friend tried to commit suicide and she%26#039;s acting like everything is okay?
Don%26#039;t pretend it didn%26#039;t happen. And your friend is like an ostrich hiding her head in the sand. She doesn%26#039;t want to recognize it by talking about it--perhaps because she%26#039;s ashamed of herself for trying, or she%26#039;s now in a better mood, or whatever the problem was was resolved (she may never have told you about the problem).
Were you there with her when she tried? If so, immediately call 911--she%26#039;s killing herself. Now knowing she tried once, even if she threatens to do it, call 911 for sure.
It sounds like she was deeply depressed over something she couldn%26#039;t handle, but would not go to anyone for help. Yet maybe her attempt was a cry for attention/help. It%26#039;s strange she now ignores it and all seems well. She should see a counselor, physician, or psychiatrist.
Sometimes, most often its during a deep level of depression/hopelessness that a person entertains suicidal thoughts.
Do you know if some life event made her sad recently? But the normalcy she shows now would suggest bipolar disease--where an individual experiences a swing in mood over a period of time (length is variable), from depressed, then super high,then depressed, etc. It%26#039;s a cycle she needs to have dealt with soon. It used to be called manic-depression.
Everything is not fine. You are a great friend to be so concerned. Someone, for her sake, needs to tell her parent(s)soon, so recovery can start. Maybe talk to yours and ask them to accompany you to visit her parents.
Suicide never solves problems--it makes life worse for the survivors.
My friend tried to commit suicide and she%26#039;s acting like everything is okay?
yep, as callous as it sounds. this person seems to not want to talk about it. i can%26#039;t imagine what is going through her mind but unless she wants to talk about it, there is nothing you can do about it. also, remember that if she really wanted to hurt herself, there%26#039;s nothing anyone can do to stop her. if she truly attempted suicide and no one knows about it, i would tell her parents, especially since you are so worried about her. the other possibility is that the attempt caused her to realize that what she tried was the final step and is not reversible. in all, she sounds like she needs help either from her parents, school counselor(s), or her primary care physician.
Look her in the eye - tell her that you know she may feel uncomfortable with talking about her suicide attempt - that you don%26#039;t want to force her to talk about it to you but that you%26#039;re there for her to share her feelings with you whenever she wants.
If you have contact with other friends or her family who know about the suicide attempt, tell them you feel worried about her and that you want them to watch out for her as well.
I can understand why you%26#039;re scared for your friend - obviously this attempt proves that she is capable of such a thing from what you%26#039;ve said and you don%26#039;t want her going down that path again. Don%26#039;t force your friend to say anything - as I said before; tell her you%26#039;re there for her through thick and thin. Continue to hang around with her as normal and treat her no differently as to how you did before after you%26#039;ve gotten your message across to her :-)
I would try to tell someone, and get them help. If they really did attempt suicide, they%26#039;re probably still covering something up. It would be terrible if they tried again and succeeded and you might have been able to try and do something for them. You have to make the decision, if it seems bad enough, though.
She%26#039;s probaly acting like things are ok on the outside, but their really not on the inside, id say your friend doesn%26#039;t want you to worry about her %26amp;%26amp; alot of people that are depressed really don%26#039;t wanna own up to, trust me i%26#039;ve had the same problems, honestly just talk to her and let her know your their for her and stuff and then maybe she might feel comfortable enought to talk to you.
Well, she may be embarressed to talk about it... I wouldn%26#039;t pretend that it%26#039;s nothing if she brings it up but I wouldn%26#039;t bring it up if I were you... it%26#039;s good that you care about your friend though. Just act like nothing happened so she doesn%26#039;t feel pressured unless she decides to talk about it.
Ask a psychiatrist if he%26#039;ll do a free meeting with her. If so, make sure she goes. DON%26#039;T let her talk you out of taking her, INSIST that she go for her own good being. You never know, if the appointment goes well, she might end up taking monthly appointments which I%26quot;m sure will make you feel better.
She is just trying to put off conversaton. she is seriously hiding her true feelings hoping she can show you she is strong but i know on the inside she is hurting and she is in pain. take her into a quiet spot with no one around and just hug her. and dont stop. and if she asks wwhat your doing dont respind. just let your eyes show her how you feel.
Don%26#039;t smother her, Kind of drift off of that topic.
If she still shows signs of depression try talking to her parents or yours.
If she%26#039;s over it she%26#039;s over it, Try not to revert back to that topic if she shows no sign of depression.
You should press the matter. If she%26#039;s acting as if it never happened, she hasn%26#039;t acknowledged how serious the situation is. I might be wrong, but it%26#039;s better to be safe than sorry, right? Get her help.
she probably wants attention.. since ur giving it to her, she%26#039;s fine.. she needs help..
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You shouldn%26#039;t really say anything because if she changes the topic she obviously is not okay, right now all she needs is a friend.
Yes. Pretend nothing happened.
shes bipolar and she needs help trust me..even if she is thristy 4 attention she might have adhd or something..things like this have 2 be treated u cant just say oh shes fine because one day she can commit a total stupidity
She might be embarrassed, and not wanting to make a big deal of it. Either way though, she needs help.
well can%26#039;t really say....
but yo friend has major case of bi-polarism
I geuss so my freind did that the first time...lets just say he cant do that any more :(
You say it only happened a few days ago, right now the cats out of the bag that she has a major problem / problems.
Her parents, brothers, sisters, boy or girl friend (If she has them), the doctors EVERYBODY, is confused hurt and most of all looking for an explination. Just like you her friend. She%26#039;s under a lot of pressure.
I dont mean this to seem unkind, but right now she probably just needs a little space to come to terms with the fact everyone %26quot;knows%26quot;.
You are probably going to be a very important part of her recovery, if you choose to.
Why? Because you understand how hard it is to talk openly and truthfully to your parents, would you trust your siblings NOT to go blabbing to mom and dad (For your own good of course)
Would you really want to bear your soul to the strangers in white coats?
When she is ready, she is going to need a friend and a confidant, just let her know that you care for her, that what she did worried you and that you will be there for her any time day or night if need be.
You should tell you parents (if you still live at home) you plan to be there for her too, It wouldn%26#039;t be good if she called suicidal at 1am on a school night and your mom or dad cursed and hung up on her.
Some tips;
Listen
Listen to your friend without judging her and offer reassurance that you%26#039;re there and you care. If you think your friend is in immediate danger, stay close 鈥?make sure she isn%26#039;t left alone.
Tell
Dont be sworn to secrecy, if you do and you need to tell to save her life, well you might loose her friendship, but you wont loose your friend.
In an emergency you must seek help. Share your concerns with an adult you trust as soon as possible.
If necessary, you can also call a local emergency number (911) or the toll-free number for a suicide crisis line (you can find local suicide crisis numbers listed in your phone book).
The most important thing now is to let her know you are there for her and standby.
Good luck!
